If you've read my coming-of-age novel, Stillwater, you know what an idyllic village it was back in the 1950s. My book is during one summer, but Stillwater was a fairy tale town in the winter as well.
My brother, Bob, and I have wonderful memories of those winters. We rode our sleighs down the hill behind the school, skated on the old canal and sometimes the Hudson River froze and we could skate right behind our house.
We both remember the time it snowed a lot right before Christmas. Bob and I were in a Christmas show and the practices were at night in the old school auditorium. The air was cold, the snowbanks were taller than we were and the snow crunched under our boots as we walked over to the school. By the time we got there, our cheeks were rosy and my fingers were so cold I had to blow on them before I played the piano so Bob could belt out "Christmas in Kilerney."
Stillwater is still a fairy tale place in the winter—even more so than when I lived there. Four years ago, the town started an event at the Blockhouse Park where the townspeople could purchase memory trees and decorate them in honor of people they've loved and lost.
Maureen Carney-Root is one of them She grew up in Stillwater and loves the new tradition. "It is not a fundraiser," she told me. "The town charges $50 to purchase a tree. That takes care of the tree and 5 or 6 weeks of electricity. They take care of ordering and picking up the tree. They put up the stakes, then mount them and add a placard with people's names to remember and who is dedicating them. They are put up just before Thanksgiving, and people have to the first Saturday of December to decorate them. That night, they light the trees, pipe in music, have fires, and serve hot chocolate and cookies."
"Every year it gets bigger," Maureen explained. "As people see the trees, they want one for their family member. I always get one for my parents and my aunt, my father's sister. My father's family are Stillwater natives and have been here forever. My mother moved here in 1946 when my parents were married. My brothers and families often come to the lighting, but only my husband and I came this year. We stayed in the car till the illumination took place, took pictures, then got right back in the car. Some stayed longer, but not many because of covid. It was fairly well attended, but no one lingered. Usually, there are many more people and they walk around and look at the trees and enjoy the refreshments."
For Maureen, it's an emotional event. "I love remembering the people in the town that lived here before me. As I walk through the trees and read the placards with the people's names they are remembering, it brings back pleasant memories of them and their families. Because I've lived here all my life and taught in the school for 33 years, l know many of those earlier residents."
I'm putting Stillwater's Lights of Peace, Hope, and Remembrance Tree Event on my things-to-do list when COVID is over. Hopefully, I’ll get to meet Maureen and have my own memory tree!
Merry Christmas and all the best in 2021—stay safe, be well and be good. Santa's coming!